It matters not whether mirrorless lenses are better in every respect, are lighter and/or smaller if one cannot, or will not, afford to buy them.
Yes,
nikpharm's comment was inaccurate in many respects he was accepting that some lenses were lighter. That he missed some is unfortunate.
Any weight saving available by switching to mirrorless is academic if one is unable, or unwilling, to do so. Thus, I share your apparent frustration. We both accept that mirrorless lenses can be lighter and have better performance and probably acknowledge that cost is an obstacle.
My point is this Switching to mirrorless, irrespective of any benefits, is not worth the cost, at least as far as I am concerned. My normal carry is two D5 bodies, 24-70 f2.8 VR, 70-200 f/2.8 FL VR and a TC17. There is no Z mount TC17 so a direct weight comparison isn't possible. The approximate weight saving, as I have already suggested is around 200g The cost of saving those 200g is £70 per gramme. i hope you can appreciate why I am not going there.