After much thought on this, and downloading some of your images, I really don't think the exposure you are getting out of camera is that unreasonable. I'm not saying the camera is getting it perfect. But I think what is programmed into matrix metering and what your preference is for an exposure is not necessarily going to line up.
First off, you mention a lot of "what the scene looked like to my eye". Honestly, I'm not suggesting that there is anything wrong with your eye. But the truth is Nikon doesn't care what it looks like to your eye. Nikon is doing a cold calculation of light and coming up with an exposure that it has been programmed to regard as the proper exposure for the scene.
A couple of your photo examples really have no bright areas in them. Nothing which should really be reaching the right end of the histogram. So I'm not surprised if the raw files have a lot of highlight room left. In my opinion, if you exposed the shot to move the histogram to the right in some of those photos to close up the gap your photos would be overexposed.
There's a philosophy practiced loosely by some that a good photo should have something that approaches pure white and something approaching pure black. But that doesn't mean that the exposure out of camera will show that. Many times it's up to post-processing if you want to achieve that. I generally like to expose to the right myself just so I capture quality data. That means I'm often times pulling back the photo in post.
Let's consider B&W photography for just a second. Caucasian skin is generally thought to be Zone VI. When I convert a couple of your photos to B&W in ACR I find that the RGB values on the skin is around 180 to 190. In terms of general exposure, that's too bright.
Going back to color, I find that what is pleasing to me (for an ordinary photo) is to achieve a post-processed red value of between 200-210 for the bright areas of Caucasian skin. I will vary this between 200 and 220, depending on the scene. The highlight skin areas in a couple of your processed photos are above 230. That's just me. You are, of course, free to arrive at a value that pleases you. But Nikon can't possibly accommodate both of us. Even my value of 210 is above the Zone VI value for skin.
Final exposure/brightness in a photo is a very complicated and subjective matter. My preferences are not any more valid than your preferences. As far as the camera goes, it is a lot more cold and calculated.
I've only really looked at the first image I posted here, but agree that there is more red than there should be. This was edited on an older monitor which was not adequate or I imagine I'd have wound up with less red in the final result.
That being said, just toning that down the way I would do so is really not bringing that 230 down, so I am curious what method you would take if you were adjusting this photo to meet the standards you go by.
Now if I do go ahead and drop the exposure down to get something closer to what you're talking about in both color and BW, I get this:
Now to me, that is too dark but it's too dark to the point that I wouldn't even say that this is a matter of preference - I just think it's objectively too dark. Do you think that this is a more proper exposure? Even so, it's still much brighter than the metered version, which is posted above.