. . . Don't be distracted by autofocus, you don't need it and never will need it if you can master a few basic principles of photography. It took me a while to wrap my head around it, but I often see my camera as an extension of my body. Have you ever tried shooting without looking through the viewfinder?
Very Zen. I mean that in a good way.
But . . . a couple of things. You don't give much information on how you have your camera set up so to be explicit:
Set the lens to manual focus.
Set the camera to either A or S mode (aperature or shutter priority). In low light you might want to use S mode around 1/60 which is just pushing it for hand held with good technique (1/100 is considered about average for controlling camera shake with a 50mm lens on DX)
Set the camera to Auto Focus Area Mode Single Area AF - this means that the camera uses a single point to detect focus.
Make sure the single point is in the middle and lock it there
Set the camera to Single servo AF (AF-S). This means that the camera locks focus when you press the shutter half way.
When you look through the viewfinder, watch the Auto Focus indicator which is the dot on the bottom left of the viewfinder:
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The camera is still detecting focus, but because it doesn't work without a motor in the lens, it can't turn the focus ring on the lens - so you have to.
Press the shutter half way and as you turn the focus ring the dot will light when the camera is in focus on the single point.
The 50 1.8 is a great lens for the price. Wide open (at 1.8) it has a razor thin depth of field - really shallow so that on a head and shoulder portrait, if you are spot on focus of someone's eye, the eyebrow may be out of focus, and if you sway a little bit (don't hold the camera rock-solid-tripod steady) the focus plane isn't going to be where you want it at all. Stopping down improve the depth of field but means in low light you need to lower the shutter speed and camera movement and subject movement start to become problematic for maintaining sharpness.
Does that help and/or make sense?