On a DSLR, it only takes that much because the other 70% is needed for the OVF. And then the mirror flips up and the sensor gets all of the light.
Eh, so you're assuming that 30% directed to PDAF module is an afterthought, leftover? I would say, it is by design. And don't forget yet another path in DSLRs: metering module.
The SLT steals the 30% all the time which is a disadvantage of it relative to the SLR although I suppose one could also design the mirror to flip up in an SLT.
What has this got to do with anything? There are compromises with EVERY design, one chooses that gives up something to gain something else, INCLUDING a mirrorless camera which is really the point of this discussion. There is no free lunch.
The on sensor PDAF is fundamentally different because, well, it's on the sensor.
Fundamentally different in the way light is being received for AF. You're assuming that it uses less light to do the same thing that DSLRs/SLTs need 30% of the light for. Perhaps you're assuming it is significantly less (less than 20% or a third stop?).