DSLR PDAF systems could, and in fact, some do, take advantage of the larger apertures of a fast lens.
Are you sure?
Some who are well respected claim the aperture in the AF unit in the mirror box restricts AF used brightness to about f5.6 aperture.
This is similar limitation to a DSLR viewfinder restricting image brightness and the depth of field impression to no wider than (depending on the camera model) between about f2.2 and f4.
You cannot see the full narrowness of depth of field at wider than f2.2 with a DSLR viewfinder - you can see it right up to f.095 with Nikon ML.
Some lens designs have been know for focus shift as they are stopped down. This can lead to some focus error shooting stopped down.
Focus shift generally takes place at wider than f5.6 - and is compensated for in a system like Nikon ML that focus at the stopped down aperture.
It seems a few Nikon Z lenses have enough focus shift to be a problem with a DSLR system - with the potential trade off of higher optical quality than a lens designed without the focus shift.
Some high-end Canons (I'm not sure about Nikons) had f/2.8 AF sensors.
Yes - it worked with just a few EOS lenses.
Moving away from the topic heading - while ML (except some Olympus) cannot take advantage of cross type sensors - my hands on experience is overall ML is increasingly better because
1/ the viewfinder starts by being
several stops brighter than a DSLR
2/ actual depth of field is displayed wider than about f2.2 (the Nikon DSLR limit) with faster apertures.
3/ in reasonable daylight ML viewfinders at even f16 are quite bright compared to dim on a DSLR when using a button to stop down to f16 to check depth of field.
4/ Lenses with focus shift are not an AF challenge on Nikon ML.
5/ The dramatically improved electric communication with the Z mounts= allows lens distortion to be easily corrected electronically - this is difficult optically without other optical trade offs.
6/ Subject detection is constantly developing with ML - and is not available on Nikon DSLRs.
7/ Others can list their preferred ML advantages.
8/ Nikon still sells the D850 and D780 new and is not forcing anybody to go ML - though few would go back to no longer made Nikon film bodies for action photography
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Leonard Shepherd
In lots of ways good photography is similar to learning to play a piano - it takes practice to develop skill in either activity.