It is a brave soul or foolish who attempts a wedding, without apprenticing under a pro.
You have opened your own can of worms here. Now you need to show us some of your better shots. And be careful which site you post them on so you can share them with us.
I have noticed that the shots I share from xanga are not nearly as crisp when I embed them here as the ones I embed from Flickr. However that ring is too out of focus for that explanation.
And what type of lighting did you use to make her hand look so bad. I assume the bride is not in her 50's. If you need to save that shot, I suggest you make it in to some sort of soft focus dreamy thing in photoshop.
I was drug into a shoot of a second wedding for some friends, and did an adequate job, but they never really said thank you. Everyone expects the 5K wedding photographer for a little punch and cake.
Good luck and I really hope everything else is much better, or you have lost some friends, or even worse you may have some strangers really angry.
So let's see some more.
whvick