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I do... but I use the SPINNING Selling cycle...

I start by saying that I want this EXPENSIVE piece of equipment... then she says NO... because it's TOO expensive (inreality, I don't really need it...) then after, I come back telling her that I want this piece that is less expensive then my first statement and she usually say YES !

But I have to admit that I'm deeply affected by NAS... ;-)

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Roman,

My wife is similar to yours. I generally don't discuss purchases unless they're more than $500 or so, and I do so as a courtesy to the woman I love rather than asking permission. As it happens, I've been a "house-husband" for half a dozen years now, but my wife does not use that to exert power (I worked and earned for 30+ years; I'm more useful now at home with the kids, as a hockey taxi, etc.).

Speaking personally, for MY values only, I get more satisfaction from being honest with my wife than I would from any lens/body that I got by hiding the purchase. OTOH, I'm old enough and have seen enough different relationships to know that no two marriages are alike, and it's never easy to know what happens behind closed doors.
 
LOL, one of the funniest threads of late...

I'm not married. My girlfriend knows approximately how much it is. But as it is my own money, it doesn't really matter.

Last december I said though that until end of July I would have to control my NAS, she has reminded me of it in fun.
 
Man, as a guy I'm always embarrassed when I read threads or posts on the "hope the wife doesn't find out" subject. Really? If it's your own money why would you need to hide anything? I also don't even see how you can unless you're married to someone who's either a lot less intelligent or completely disinterested in your job/passion.

I'm not married, but I have a long term girlfriend, and she's completely aware of what kind of equipment I use and how much it costs me. I mean, for goodness sake, she has the internet too, if you know what model something is, it's easy enough to find the price. Her attitude is "you only live once", as in "You only live once so you might as well have nice things", and mine is the same when it comes to her spending money on what she's into.

I can't even imagine being in a relationship where I'd have to hide this kind of thing from the person I loved.
 
Brianks239 said:
Do you ever tell your wife how much the camera or the lens cost? Or do you hide how much it really cost?
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I am single, never been married, so I don't have a wife to tell. Besides my mortgage was paid off last December, my cars are paid off, and the only bills I get are normal monthly utility bills, so there isn't a problem as long as the bank account balance remains positive.

And besides, with interest rates being paid below 1% on a 1 year CD, and the cost of everything else skyrocketing, since I don't spend my money on booze, women, gambling, or charities, I might as well spend it on something that will make me happy instead of saving it up to have it taken away by the government later. And getting great photos make me happy.
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She runs the photography side of the business and is always after me to upgrade my gear when clients ask for large shots.....I'm still fighting her on the D3X for now....will spend it when we get more profits in the bank.....and if Nikon ever gets off the duff and announces a D900 or whatever their D700 version of the D3X might be.

If she had her way...I would be shooting a P65+ kit right now.

Till then pushing my 12MP files hard and every thing I learn in that pushing will go into the larger files when I finally go for the larger MP camera.

Roman
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Yves P. said:
As long as I can put food on the table, take care of the kids and still manage to get everything working out well, it is none of her business.

I don't ask her how much she spends on her fancy skin creams and dresses she buys, it is none of my business. Anything she buys actually except for something she shares with me and the family is her business and only her business, not mine.

She has her bank account, I have mine ... I don't depend on her and vice versa.
Brianks239 said:
Do you ever tell your wife how much the camera or the lens cost? Or do you hide how much it really cost?
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Wow,

Interesting relationship. ;-)

For years, my husband and I discussed the prices, etc... Ever since, I started selling Canon Gear and buying Nikon Gear, we haven't discussed it too much. Lately, I have been buying, trying, and sometimes selling; then buying again. :-)

If I were buying new gear that was expensive, he would definitely get an input. But in the end, nothing I do breaks the bank. ;-)

Happy Shooting,
Pam
 
That is the first thing she hears from me. Obviously she replies that I never said anything, to which I reply, "You need medication for that."

If you know you have the money, but you hate to argue, say nothing until she finds out you got it. No use arguing three times about the same thing; that is: once before you order - once after you order - and once when the thing arrives.
 
don't go down that road to disception; its
an ugly destination.

maljo
 
Of course I blummin well do... she's not daft anyway, she knows an expensive bit of gear when she sees it.

Nope, for all my cameras & lenses, I've told her how much every time, even though it's business, she needs to know IMO.
 
Timing is everything. If I asked my wife, I would still be using a Kodak Brownie. After the fact: that's the time for truth. "Hey, sugar, look at this beautiful new lens I bought."
 
And as photography is purely a hobby for me I make sure she gets something of equal value for her pleasure.
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Nah, I figure the odds of my wife reading this forum are pretty low. I bothered to reply to this posting frankly for the benefit of the unmarried in the crowd; I don't want them to think that marriage is all about deception, secrets, and battles. As it happens, my wife and I give each other quite a bit of privacy, but expect each other to be honest.
abolit said:
do you guys tell these "honest" stories knowing that your wife may get a chance to read them? :) They're too nice to be true :)
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