I used to own the Sony and now own the Panasonic. Never had them at the same time so have never been able to make a direct comparison in the same conditions.
when I look at photos from both my favourites are always from the Sony. Can’t quite put my finger on why. I think the Sony has more DR and less DoF. But when I compare them on sites like DXO this shouldn’t be the case.
Im considering investing in the old setup again but that just doesn’t feel right. Surely my current setup should outperform or at least equal the old?
The A230 has a CCD, which is a completely different kind of sensor than is used in any modern camera, all of which have CMOS sensors. That might prompt the biggest difference in terms of "look."
In reality, the GX80 has dramatically more dynamic range - at least 2 stops at every ISO, and better in both the shadows and highlights. If you feel the Sony has better dynamic range, it may be the result of problems with exposure. Have you looked at RAW files, or just out-of-camera JPEGs?
Due to the lower dynamic range and increased grain, people often feel that CCDs feel more "like film" than CMOS sensors, so that might be part of your preference as well.
However, where you are correct is that the Sony will have shallower depth of field. It also has a wider field of view (75mm equivalent, instead of 90mm equivalent with the Olympus lens). This combined with the 3:2 aspect ratio instead of 4:3 will give the 50/1.8 a more "expansive" frame that you might just prefer.
For the same framing (i.e. with the Sony kit shot closer to the subject) it will have more background blur due to the longer focal length and larger sensor:
https://www.howmuchblur.com/#lens-1.5x-50mm-f1.8-vs-2x-45mm-f1.8-on-3m-subject
If you think it's mostly about pure DoF, then using a lens like Sigma's 56mm/f1.4 on your GX80 will give you shallower DoF than the Sony. However, if you think it's more about the wider field of view that you prefer the look of, you might be more inclined to look at the Sigma 30mm/1.4, though it will have more DoF than even the 45mm/1.8.
If you want more specific help, it would useful to try and show us a photo you like from the Sony and compare to one you feel is letting you down, even if they're not a direct side-by-side comparison. Without specific information, it's difficult to give you a better answer than that.