Sweetbutterfy1, I have not read most of the thread, but what you are getting are other peoples personnel preferences.
The answer to your question depends on why you want a camera.
Do you want a camera to take pictures of family and friends and have no real interest in photography: D3000 or D3100 with 18-55mm VR kit lens.
Are you a beginner and thinking about photography as a hobby: D3100 or D5100 (D5000) with 18-55mm VR and 55 to 200mm VR lenses. The kit lens are of very good optical quality.
Are you an experienced photography: D5000, D5100, D90, D7000 and select lenses based on your experience.
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Canon A2E, Sony R1, Panny TZ5, & Nikon D5000.