How is mirrorless easier to focus? Just because the EVF can zoom in?
Pretty much - unless you go to the enthusiast-level DSLRs, the optical viewfinders are fairly small and lack any manual focus grids or prisms, so they don't really have any advantages in focus - the EVFs or LCD screens are quite large, usually extremely high resolution, and combined with the ability to zoom in for focus accuracy, can be done very quickly and accurately.
I'm very reticent to go for the EVF because of any lag or delay in shooting due to battery-saving measures - i.e. turning off the EVF automatically, etc. No matter how quickly it can fire up, I'd assume it's yet another possible point of lag.
It is - but how much lag, and whether it would affect you, is the big question. I haven't found myself waiting on the camera with my mirrorless when I need a shot - it wakes up from sleep mode instantaneously and is ready to fire. A preventative measure is to half-press the shutter as you grab the camera - by the time you get it up to your eye, it's on and should be ready. That's one reason why trying one out might be a good idea, so you can really test the lag or lack thereof in person for your own needs.
The one issue that seems to be best across the board on a DSLR is battery-life simply due to the fact that they aren't required to consistently power a LCD and can be on standby. Is this true?
Absolutely. Again though, the question is relative...how much battery life do you need? There is no question that a decent DSLR will absolutely crush any mirrorless camera on battery life. CIPA ratings of 1,000+ shots are very typical for DSLRs, versus CIPA ratings of 200-300ish for most mirrorless cameras. Of course, the world doesn't all shoot by CIPA standards, so in real life, depending on settings, features, flashes, etc, you can usually get a lot more. With my DSLR, I have seen easily 3,500+ photos on a single charge. With my mirrorless, I have shot about 600-700 over the course of 4-5 days on a single charge. Far more than the CIPA rating for the camera, but far less than my DSLR. But would 500 to 600 photos over a 3-4 day period be typical for you, or do you need to shoot much more? if you're needing to shoot 1,000 frames a day, you'll be changing batteries on a mirrorless much more often than a DSLR. But if you only nede 200-400 a day, a mirrorless will handle it.
In that way, I'm seeing a connection between speed and battery life that both seem to be in favor of DSLR.
True...depending on whether a mirrorless' more limited battery life would still be sufficient to meet your needs. Also a note: One thing I find immensely useful for any digital camera is when you have accurate battery life information...especially when using a camera that might have more limited battery life. You may want to look into which cameras have the ability to display remaining battery life in either minutes or percentages, rather than a simple 3 or 4 bar LED grid. This makes your comfort level and trust in the battery much higher, when you can look down and see "46%" rather than 2 bars.
But if I go "DSLR" can I get away with something like a D3100 with its small size and weight (something I like) or will I be disappointed it isn't a giant 5D?
That's something only you can know. Personally, I have been very happy and satisfied with APS-C DSLRs paired with the right lenses, and though I don't prefer my DSLRs to be tiny or light, I also don't find myself pining for a full frame.
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