Might your wife's camera perhaps have been set to use whatever ISO proved necessary to get a correct exposure? Despite the low lighting, only one of yours got as high as even ISO400 !
You've clearly had a pretty thorough try with the various settings, and it hardly seems fair that you got so many rejects. While I can't check the details shown on Flickr in PhotoME as either Flickr or your resizing process has stripped out the relevant data, here's what seems to have happened to each:
164 - Portrait mode with ISO100 - 1/30th second. The flash power at that ISO setting is fairly weak - at full wideangle the Manual quotes a range of only 0.6-1.6 metres; any further and all is darkness..
169 - Auto exposure, ISO 250, 1/8th second shutter plus flash. Here I'd say either you, the strap or something else has blocked off the righthand side of the flash - the only illumination on that side seems to be the tungsten room lighting, from that long exposure. The details include "Gain Control: High gain up" - but I think that may be Flickr's interpretation as I've not seen it on any of mine?
Shame, otherwise - with the nearby background to hold more of the light in - this would otherwise probably have been the best of the lot
170 - Auto exposure at ISO 100 and the flash is pretty much dead-on, for the distance at which you've focused anyway! Again, falloff effects for the guy at the end (as with 173).
Strangely I can't get my camera to use this sort of shutterspeed (1/8th) unless I set the flash to slow sync/Redeye (otherwise it won't go below 1/30th) - could you have tried that?
Even that wasn't enough to properly expose the background - you may still have had the "Min Shtr Speed" at its default setting of 1/8th, so it couldn't go further?
171 - Portrait mode with ISO 400. The flash didn't fire (presumablty you turned it off?), so the camera selected the longest exposure it could, 1/8th second, but again not long enough - see 170 above
173 - taken at about 32mm, flash fired, 1/30th second.
A good example of the flash illumination falling off with distance. Although the flash has lit the main subjects (the backs of the first two people) perfectly, since the people sitting opposite are almost twice as far away, they get only 1/2 x 1/2 = 1/4 of that illumination and are much darker, with the effect being even more marked in the background! (Note the fairly even distribution of the flash from right to left unlike in 169)
Any of that sound possible?
Peter
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