I detest having my photo taken too.
The camera seems to add pounds where there are none, as does it add blemishes, crows feet etc. where I swear there is none! ;-D lol
If someone wishes to take photographs of me, I always feel unprepared. I like to be better dressed, make-up applied (yes, I am a woman) and my hair smoothed. In my day-to-day life, this isn't usually the case and so naturally I don't like the camera spotting me.
Even still, when I am "prepared"-trying to act natural (as if the camera isn't there) is impossible for me to do. I don't like that phony feeling and so, I'd rather not.
On the flip side, I am uncomfortable taking photographs of people for the same reasons I don't like being photographed.
I think in general, people are difficult to photograph. Either because they don't like to be photographed or because I feel uncomfortable "getting in their face" so-to-speak. Children being the exception as they usually enjoy it and they are much cuter to photograph than most adults. lol
Those who are "photophobic" probably have genuine reasons for not liking to be photographed. There are people who simply don't like being the center of attention. It boils down to personality and I have one that would rather avoid being the center of attention.
The best thing a family member could do for me, if they wanted to take photographs of me, is to give me a "heads up" so that I can prepare myself (appearance)...and then he/she being good at keeping a "low profile" with the camera.
Can you identify with this?
