I am in serious trouble...Please Help!

Will64 · Mar 17, 2005

Just find out when the bill will arrive and make sure you get the mail that day. Just be sure the payment is made on the same billing cycle as the charge.

Disclaimer: Before I get completely roasted, I'm only kidding. ;-)

--Will

DavidMaven · Mar 17, 2005

JDFowler said:
I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

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diabolic · Mar 17, 2005

Just shoot her, with your news lens of course!

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rustedborg · Mar 17, 2005

JDFowler said:
...but, this is really just a joke. I thought people would realize
my original post was light hearted. I'm not really in a marital
quandry.

That's what I thought ... before my divorce.

Just kidding.

On a serious note, I've learned over the years to "pace" my huge purchases based on my wife's spending habits. I'll let her buy all the clothes, jewelry, CDs, books, decorative items for the house, etc. that she wants. And as long as her purchases don't put us into financial trouble I don't even blink. Meanwhile, I'm keeping a mental record of the total amounts of her purchases ... and every once in a while when those purchases hit a high enough dollar value, I go buy the expensive lens, camera body, accessory, or computer that I want/need.

It also helps that I'm a working wedding photographer and my photography brings "in" money. But since that income also has to be used to pay bills and put food on the table I still have to be careful how much I spend so as to keep my married life a happy one.

tao.design · Mar 17, 2005

Hey JD--

I don't really have any advise that could add to the range of earnest and humorous responses you've already received, but I just wanted to say, enjoy the lens.

As you well know by now after doing the research, it's a great piece of equipment that will serve you very well. Let's hope that your kind wife will appreciate the smile that hunk of glass, metal, and plastic will bring to your face, not to mention the images.

And thanks for the plug, I hope that review doesn't end up getting you into any real trouble. Glad you found it... well, "helpful" might not be the right word in this instance...

Do post some images when you've had a chance to shoot with the lens, and let us know how you make out!

Best of luck,
Todd

JDFowler said:
I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

Donald Humphreys · Mar 17, 2005

You might be able to convince her of this point, when it comes to photography.

Don H.

Hej · Mar 17, 2005

"Pimp slap".

JDFowler said:
I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

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DVAN · Mar 17, 2005

DavidMaven said:
JDFowler said:

I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

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Dominique Dierick · Mar 17, 2005

First take the D2x hurdle

CIASpook said:
dominique dierick said:

To which she replied: "If you spend that ridiculous amount of money
on one stupid lens, you might as well go for the best one, or next
week I hear you are not really satisfied with it and you walk
around the house like a beaten Cocker Spaniel".

THAT's my kind of lady !

D.

JDFowler said:

I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

Click to expand...

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Equipment: camera and lenses

tao.design · Mar 17, 2005

Work the D2X into the prenuptial agreement.

Todd

dominique dierick said:
CIASpook said:

dominique dierick said:

To which she replied: "If you spend that ridiculous amount of money
on one stupid lens, you might as well go for the best one, or next
week I hear you are not really satisfied with it and you walk
around the house like a beaten Cocker Spaniel".

THAT's my kind of lady !

D.

JDFowler said:

I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

Click to expand...

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Equipment: camera and lenses

Click to expand...

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http://www.pbase.com/DigitalCMH

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Equipment: camera and lenses

JDFowler · Mar 17, 2005

Rest assured, my post was all in jest and there will be peace tonight in the Fowler household. Your review was awesome and really, for me, it was confirmatory. I am anxiously awaiting the arrival of my little new bundle of joy via UPS.

Take care,

JD

tao.design said:
Hey JD--

I don't really have any advise that could add to the range of
earnest and humorous responses you've already received, but I just
wanted to say, enjoy the lens.

As you well know by now after doing the research, it's a great
piece of equipment that will serve you very well. Let's hope that
your kind wife will appreciate the smile that hunk of glass, metal,
and plastic will bring to your face, not to mention the images.

And thanks for the plug, I hope that review doesn't end up getting
you into any real trouble. Glad you found it... well, "helpful"
might not be the right word in this instance...

Do post some images when you've had a chance to shoot with the
lens, and let us know how you make out!

Best of luck,
Todd

tao.design · Mar 17, 2005

JD,

Glad to hear, one never can tell on this board.

You're gonna love it.

Todd

JDFowler said:
Take care,

JD

tao.design said:

Hey JD--

I don't really have any advise that could add to the range of
earnest and humorous responses you've already received, but I just
wanted to say, enjoy the lens.

As you well know by now after doing the research, it's a great
piece of equipment that will serve you very well. Let's hope that
your kind wife will appreciate the smile that hunk of glass, metal,
and plastic will bring to your face, not to mention the images.

And thanks for the plug, I hope that review doesn't end up getting
you into any real trouble. Glad you found it... well, "helpful"
might not be the right word in this instance...

Do post some images when you've had a chance to shoot with the
lens, and let us know how you make out!

Best of luck,
Todd

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lje04 · Mar 17, 2005

Looks like quite a few of us have had your same problem. My own card and being able to intercept the mail is my solution. I even retired so there would be little risk that I could not meet the mailman before the mail meets my wife. Now that doesn’t mean she doesn’t know I'm playing around but even my wife doesn’t think I stupid enough to spend $2,000 on a lens, filter and teleconverter (which I did today). So let’s quit kidding each other, whatever the cost, intercept the mail and pay it off before the next billing cycle.

JDFowler said:
I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

jdl · Mar 17, 2005

In case she kills you...can you leave me the lens in your will?

But seriously, the smartest move I ever made in marriage was retaining control of the bills. The credit card statement comes addressed to me, and she never looks at it. So I can buy all kinds of toys she doesn't know about, and I still get to yell at her when she spends $300 on a haircut - the best of both worlds!

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b4ls4 · Mar 17, 2005

...if your relationship with your wife is more important to you or your passion about photography. Think long term.

What you should do, I don't know. What I'd do if I did the same is this. Sit her down and tell her that I have made a decision that I now know I should have consulted with her before. Be honest with her. Tell her that I ordered an excellent lens that I believe will enable me to create pictures I wasn't able to create before. Tell her that I know it is a very expensive lens and this is the reason I should have talked to her ahead of time.

Will she be mad? Count on that. Is there anything I can say that will make her feel better? Probably nothing at this point. Will time help? Yes. Do I need to make excuses? No. Should I try to explain? Certainly not. Do I try to defend my decision or arrogantly tell her I can't understand her anger or frustration? Should I accuse her of not understanding me? No way!

And finally: is this going to work in your case? No idea. This is simply what I would do if I were in this situation with my wife. In our relationship being up-front and honest with each other has very much paid off.

It's just my € 0.01 - not even 2 cents...

B4ls4

Larry1222 · Mar 17, 2005

Leave town...don't forget the camera and lens...

JDFowler said:
I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

sunflowerflyer · Mar 17, 2005

But enjoy your lens.

JDFowler said:
I took the 70-200vr plunge today...thanks to the many post on this
board and especially the review by one tao.design. After rebate it
will come in just under my $1500 budget. The money is some I saved
up doing odd jobs.

My wife knows I have some money and I told her I was going to buy
"a nice lense" with it...and she's cool with that. Problem is, she
doesn't really know how much I have. Of course, I had to order the
lense with the charge card. When she sees a charge for a $1600
lense she is going to do you know what with a load of bricks.

Spending $1000 on a camera was quite a pill for my wife to swallow.
Spending $1500 (after rebate) on a lense for said camera is likely
to throw her into coronary arrest. She just isn't going to
understand.

Any suggestions on how to handle this situation would be greatly
appreciated.

RCTHX · Mar 17, 2005

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PRW_Photo · Mar 17, 2005

Then tell her you saved almost 50% and only payed $1500. No woman can resist a bargain!

Paul Wossidlo
Pittsburgh, PA

Nasixi said:
You think you got problems? The guide price for this lens in the UK
is £1500 i.e. $2,888! How the hell I am supposed to justify that to
my wife?

Simon

PRW_Photo · Mar 17, 2005

Two weeks ago I let my wife use my D70 for the first time to take a few snaps of me and my 2 sons. She said "Boy, this is really nice!". I said "Yes, it is.", to which she responded "No, I mean this is REALLY nice." (in other words, I'm not getting it back...)

Bottom line, I'm in the process of scrapping together the cash for a second D70...

THEN, on the same day, my 5-year-old took a couple of pics of mommy with the D70, and fussed when I took it back. My wife suggested to him that we get him his own digital camera (we were thinking of one of those

A third D70???? (I do plan to make him my asistant in a few more years...)

Paul Wossidlo
Pittsburgh, PA

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