Be nice, but be honest

Started Jun 4, 2012 | Discussions thread
tedolf
tedolf Forum Pro • Posts: 26,561
So do yours!

SirSeth wrote:

It's bigoted snobbery with a heavy overtone of judgementalism.

Awwww... just kidding. I was compensating because I didn't want to give you any undeserved praise. I do actually have some serious comments about this though. I think that criticism isn't as constructive as we think it is. I'm an educator and student of leadership and have given this a lot of thought. There is a book called Strengthfinder that really hacks at the pervasive idea that we must work on our weak areas in order to be fully successful. Many leaders feel it's their job description to evaluate for weaknesses so that they can help their people grow professionally. They believe their position dictates that they must oversee this growth in order to be a good leader. The problem is, it really doesn't work. If you focus on improving your weaknesses, you'll just be a well rounded mediocre performer.

If Photoperzon became a "well rounded mediocre" photographer that would be an incredible acheivement!

Really, to get somebody on the path to learning, occoasionally you have to first remove self-delusion.

In objective tasks, e.g. climbing a wall on an obstacle course, pole valulting, etc. self delusion is not possible. In more subjective things, e.g. art-it is not only possible, it is common.

So, sometimes that is where we have to start.

If someone post a thread of truely dreadful photo and says, "see here how wonderful my photo's are, C&C welcome", that is where we need to start.

Strengthfinder is about leading from strengths, evaluating in order to build other's strengths, and discovering new strengths. And strengths are not always what you are good at, but what makes you feel amazing while doing them. Some people say they believe this, but in the end they simply try to give a positive spin on working on other's weaknesses. They start referring to weaknesses as "growth potentials" or other such nonsense.

but what if you really don't have any strenghts?

A lot of peole who are self taught are in that boat.

And, they have a lot of bad habits to unlearn.

Anyhow, on DPReview, some photos stink, but I don't feel a need to make the photographer feel good or to fix them.

Do you feel the same way when they specifically ask for C&C?

The type of feedback is heavily dependent on the relationship and level of permission given. People come here for lots of reasons. Some people really want to learn and be pushed. They solicit advice. I've done this quite a bit and have received really good feedback.

But sometimes I just want to share and I don't care if you like the picture or not.

If you don't want it to have an effect on the viewer, or in the alternative don't want feedback, then don't bother.

Best,
Seth

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