Being coerced to shoot a wedding. I need HELP! Please chime in.

Started Dec 31, 2012 | Discussions thread
GalaxyIII
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Re: Being coerced to shoot a wedding. I need HELP! Please chime in.
In reply to Sony Alpha Shooter, Dec 31, 2012

Sony Alpha Shooter wrote:

Galaxy s III wrote:

Many people have been in this situation. Taking money for this wedding makes you " responsible" . A disaster could be costly. Friends can easily become enemies if all does not go well.

So Here it is " JUST SAY NO " tell her your friendship with her is much more important to you. You are not confident enough that things will go perfectly. You are Not A Pro.

a.) I'm not saying this is the case but you would not be the first to be taken advantage of a friendship so they can save the cost of a real photographer.

IN reality, if you ruin their wedding with lost or corrupt files, you could jeopardize your relationship with her. Neither you or her can guarantee a perfect shoot.

Tell her you would much rather go to the wedding and celebrate her wedding than be charge with the responsibility and possibly of being the cause for a very disappointing day. " YOU DO NOT WANT THAT RESPONSIBILIY"

If she is truly your friend, she will let you off the hook.. if she insists I'm willing to bet she looking at saving the cost of a real Photographer.. and would rather risk your friendship and at your expense, so she doesn't have to pay. Real Photographers charge 1200 to 4000 dollars for wedding photos an vids. Is she willing to pay you that? Are you able to deliver a guaranteed 1200/4000 dollar wedding portfolio?

Instead of just saying no outright I'm leaning more towards the recommendation of a pro and having them make it a stipulation that I can tag along. That would root out the cause of them asking me for sure (to save money). I'll explain that me helping someone else out would actually help me MORE than giving me the chance to do it by myself. I'm covered each way then. I'd then get into the liability/responsibility part of it.

I'm glad there are great people on here willing to take time out of their day to respond.

By your own words " Re: Being coerced to shoot a wedding.  I need HELP!  Please chime in.

"FRIENDS DON"T COERCE FRIENDS"

I'm getting the feeling that you know you are being coerced, ask yourself is that fair to you? would a real friend want to coerce you? You already told her you didn't want to do it. A real friend would respect that. I'm still leaning toward her using you to save the cost of a Pro. BTW Most Pros would not want you over their shoulder. There is a big difference between a guest at the wedding shooting some photos and  guy trying to play Pro by shadowing the Pro.

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